Say Something!!
An observant, intelligent woman I know recently told me that I come across as being egotistical. After considering a few things… I’d say she pretty much hit the nail on the head. I *am* a bit of an egotist. In conversation, I have the tendency to lead the talk toward myself. This is compounded by the fact that evidently several people mentioned it, just not to me. That I was unaware I was doing it comes as a bit of a smack, and now I feel like a horse’s ass.
You know what? Great! If I’ve been rude, self-centered, and haven't allowed people to get a word in edgewise, call me on it! I’m not perfect. I’d *like* to not step on so many toes, if I can help it. Really! I can’t say that I’ll take every piece of criticism as God’s Law, but if it sounds reasonable; then Hell Yes, I’ll take it under advisement.
Sheesh! So I’m self-centered. Big whoop. You can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but the good news is I’m neither old nor a dog.
What astounds me is that if someone has a habit or vice that annoys someone else, says nothing so in turn the first person does nothing to correct themselves; the second person continues to get increasingly annoyed by it! How is that logic?
I can count on one hand the number of times someone has had the nerve to stop everything, look me square in the eye and say “Casey, stop doing xxxxxxx.” But I can also tell you that I remember each one; and when they said it, I stopped doing it! It was a smack in the face (not literally), and it stung for a little bit (also not literally), but it is the ONLY tried and true way to go about it.
Don’t be afraid to speak up. My ego isn’t fragile, it’s made of reinforced vulcanized rubber. It’ll bounce back, with sufficient inflating! Seriously. I would much prefer the company of friends unafraid to chastise me for being a jerk, over the company of people who will just sit there silently and resent me for doing whatever it is I’m not aware that I’m doing.
Sheesh! (For the record: the list of people to call me on stupid shit I was doing: Jeannie, Andy, Lanny, Tamia, & McCall.)
You know what? Great! If I’ve been rude, self-centered, and haven't allowed people to get a word in edgewise, call me on it! I’m not perfect. I’d *like* to not step on so many toes, if I can help it. Really! I can’t say that I’ll take every piece of criticism as God’s Law, but if it sounds reasonable; then Hell Yes, I’ll take it under advisement.
Sheesh! So I’m self-centered. Big whoop. You can’t teach an old dog new tricks, but the good news is I’m neither old nor a dog.
What astounds me is that if someone has a habit or vice that annoys someone else, says nothing so in turn the first person does nothing to correct themselves; the second person continues to get increasingly annoyed by it! How is that logic?
I can count on one hand the number of times someone has had the nerve to stop everything, look me square in the eye and say “Casey, stop doing xxxxxxx.” But I can also tell you that I remember each one; and when they said it, I stopped doing it! It was a smack in the face (not literally), and it stung for a little bit (also not literally), but it is the ONLY tried and true way to go about it.
Don’t be afraid to speak up. My ego isn’t fragile, it’s made of reinforced vulcanized rubber. It’ll bounce back, with sufficient inflating! Seriously. I would much prefer the company of friends unafraid to chastise me for being a jerk, over the company of people who will just sit there silently and resent me for doing whatever it is I’m not aware that I’m doing.
Sheesh! (For the record: the list of people to call me on stupid shit I was doing: Jeannie, Andy, Lanny, Tamia, & McCall.)
posted by Casey Jones @ 7/22/2005 02:23:00 PM
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